How to know when it’s safe to spend your time and attention.

How to be with others.

My pattern of existing as a child turned into withdrawing from others when ‘it’ would hit the fan.

You may know it as:

What is “ghosting” for $200, Alex.

There are times where ghosting works. But it’s the exception, not the rule.

The wound this has created in our community is connection. And it’s created by manipulating our attention. It’s how the world communicates through social media: 

• Advertising

• Selfies

• Money pyramids

• “News” 

• Etc

Filtering all the noise is complex and it’s easy to shut down and turn our backs.

What if there were a tool to be with it all. All the distractions. Make a difference with someone who needs validation.

Because connection is the cost of pattern mapping to cut out the noise.

People who matter to you do not feel validated when attention is scarce. 

The default is either to talk or switch off.

I had a pattern of switching off my attention from someone who hurt me. ALL my attention and time. They got none of it!

Sure, this is healthy to stop the bleeding and heal the wounds.

And then a part of the body keeps holding onto that pattern.

Then, the patterns shows up again and again in all sorts of places:

• My creativity

• My career

• My love life

• My friendships

• My health

• My spiritual practice 

All those old wounds repeat over in strange places.

Holding onto this pattern is the spell we all may be under.

Healing this is a path made through:

• Self love

• Self awareness

• Self forgiveness

• Self exploration

• Self acceptance

Reclaim that and you know liberation because it lands in your body first. It heals in your body first. It isn’t something to talk your way out of. 

Reclaim all your parts and create community connection in a new way.

Side effects include:

• Peace within

• Peace with others, and

• Peace with the world